To the families, the friends, the loved ones or simply the curious, this is for you…
- It is a mental illness. Which means weight gain won’t ‘cure’ me.
- I did not choose this. I don’t want attention.
- Not everyone with an ED is underweight. You can be any weight and have an ED.
- It’s not about food and it’s not about wanting to be thin.
- I can’t explain ‘why’ because it’s likely I don’t even know.
- EDs drain you of energy, light and hope.
- Never give up on me, even if I give up on myself. Your support is everything.
- Get angry at the ED, not me. There’s a difference.
- Talking helps, but don’t push it. Let me know you’re there.
- Try not to be awkward. Ask me how I am, be open, it’ll help.
- I’m still ‘me’ deep down. My illness does not define me.
- It’s not that I won’t eat, I can’t. Fear and anxiety can take such a strong hold.
- I’m not mad, I’m ill.
- Refrain from commenting on my body.
- Refrain from commenting on my food, or how I eat it. It’s not helpful.
- I will get angry, depressed and extremely anxious. It’s a given.
- I probably don’t know what my body really looks like. See body dysmorphic disorder.
- An ED is an addiction.
- My ED wasn’t caused by the media.
- I’m sorry if I have caused you misery, it was never my intention.
- Please don’t talk about diets. Or ask me for tips.
- I will have bad mental health days, please bear with me.
- I am fighting a battle in my mind every second of the day. It’s exhausting.
- Recovery will take time.
- Your understanding, love and support means everything.
Note: ED stands for Eating Disorder.